Avoidance Controlling Lives

In trying to be more aware of my own actions I noticed one pattern. Then I started looking at others thought process and I noticed the same pattern as well. And this pattern was less evident in a few persons.

A lot of our choices are based on avoidance instead of eagerness to experience. This avoidance pattern tries to elude us from unknown experiences or experiences we predict as being bad for ourselves or simply to avoid the experience which will require an effort from us.

This is a perfectly normal sub-conscious behavior, one day in the past we had a bad experience and our sub-conscious mind as taken note of it. We can't do everything consciously and our sub-conscious mind tries it's best to make the best choices for us based on experiences. But leaving all our choices to our sub-conscious mind mean we'll never experience new things. If we cease to experience new things we'll stop improving ourselves. Life will become boring and repetitive.

As a little exercise, for the next 24 hours, try to ask yourself why you take mundane irrelevant choices. For example, there are two paths to get to the washrooms from my office, why do I take one and not the other? To avoid boring chatter in front of the elevator maybe? Try to put a little consciousness in all those little actions you do during your day and when you don't find a logical reason to your sub-conscious choice, try another option.

Step outside your comfort zone. Experience life differently. New experiences are not limited to bungee jumping and eating ethnic food. Little tiny experiences are part of what we are every day.



P.s.: As opposed to my last blog on uncertainties, I'm not saying the date and time of my next post. You'll have to live with mystery this time!